Wednesday, November 17, 2010

POWER boat!
I always enjoyed learning new skills, there are just so much things out there to learn!
And another skill that is successfully strike off from the list would be the motorboat!

My first memory of a powerboat is during the trip to my cousin's fish farm in malaysia, I always imagine myself driving a boat at sea. It just seem so easy. In fact, driving a boat is much simplier than a car i would say...

But then, like all other test. Luck and mindset plays an important factor in passing or not.

The first test went quite horrible, big thunderstorm causing humongous waves! It is something that a novice can never handle. And it is no wonder only a handful had pass.

Oh yah.. I forgot to mention that one of the tester looks EXACTLY like some minster we have in the country... if i didnt know better, i would have thought that the minster has a partime job over at the test site... or perhaps doing it as a hobby or to set the standard of the test.


Nonetheless, sometimes it is through this failure that one would learn and appreciate things even more! The second test was way much better! With nice easy to handle wind and nice someone to look at when feeling stress and to unlease the anxiety to. But the tester this time is both like and hate...its so obvious that he want to pass me, but just want to make things difficult for me cos he derives pleasure from seeing me super anxious. Bombarding me with questions after questions, the next harder than the previous until I make a mistake, saying that my theory is not very good and going to the next topic to start bombarding again. It is no wonder it is called a pleasure power craft.

Catching the falling leaves ...[10:18 PM]

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Thursday, November 11, 2010

Right of way....
Working with others can be fun. Knowing that everyone is doing their part to make things happen really gives us a sense of statisfaction as we know that we are achiving something. The problem comes when there are things that are not favorable to you or when others did something bad which will effect the entire situation.

When involve with such situation, there are normally 3 things that we can do 1) change the situation 2) change self and 3) relinguish

I must say even knowing this, I am not really good at handling this kind of situation to put things nicely. This is especially so in the particular situation when others did something wrong. When it comes to small trival matters, we will just say 'its alright' and things will be over. However, when things starts to get more serious we can no longer say such things as it involves responsibilities.
Certainly, when others did something wrong, we will expect them to be doing something to make up for their mistake. This is when skills comes in to make such request without making things ugly.

What normal people will do in this kind of situation is to become angry, show your unhappiness or/and make a scene or/and to make a request for compensation out loud. For me, it is just not my style to make a fuss. Or should i say, I try doing that before but I just couldn't do it and ended up losing out in important situation.

After thinkin through, what should be done is that
1) To point out that what they did is wrong and smile
2) Tell them about own plight that result from their actions and smile and continue nagging about it
3) And tell them what they should do at least and smile
4) Unsuccessful Repeat steps 1-3 again
5) Successful, closual

The idea is same when things are not in our favour.
Simple as that!
Its must better than showing our temper, hope that they will do something and get nothing done. (Also there are people who just stop at step 2... i wonder who.. haha)

This was posted simply because of the dream I had last night, when I was called down for a job interview and I waited the whole day only to realise that they have forgotten to slot me in for the interview. At that moment I was unhappy and was expecting them to do something so compensate (like giving me that job as a form of apology). So to show my disatisfaction, I stayed at the office till after office hour. From a hindsight, all these sounds easy but it is actually not when we are filled with rage when things go wrong. Come to think of it, there are people who can do all these very naturally to the extend that we are persuaded towards them without relising.. Perhaps they are just quick thinking when it come to this kind of things. But for me, I think too much when problems arises so much so by the time I finish thinking, it will be too late. That is why we need simple steps to do the proper things..

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Catching the falling leaves ...[10:21 AM]

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Monday, November 08, 2010

Golden Boy
It has been months since I last looked at my blog less to say even to post anything new up there. Simple reason is that there are just too many things to do and if there are anything to be shared, I knew there will be someone who is always be there to hear it.

But still letting the days pass like this without jotting it down can be a little wasteful. We should always analysize our experience and improve on it in the future. I recently watched an anime entitled Golden Boy which is about a guy who goes around doing odd job so as to learn as many things as possible. He took all his experience seriously and jotted down every single detail down in his dairy, hence learning in all ways possible.

I remember there was a time where I really blog about my feelings and experience with people so to analysize how I should be reacting and handle all kinds of situation. Nonetheless, the people that I have been encountering all my life are different to those whom I have been meeting recently and will be meeting more in the future. During the army days, I met people who are happy knowing they have the power over others, people who just want to be heard and people who just want to get things over and done with. Handling all these type of people are easy when you know their style. Of course along the way, I met people who are just willing to help knowing that I am new to things.

Nonetheless, I came to a point that I am meeting more and more people who have hidden agenda. We interacted in the first place because we wanted something from each other. There isn't much of such occurance before simply because I have nothing to start of with in the beginning. For me all these while, whenever I meet with such people who have such motive (it is kind of easy to id them almost immediately), I will reject them totally by ignoring or showing my disgust, nevermind them being offended or saying nasty things or how they view me. Perhaps it is some defence mechanism I have learnt unconsciously. However, on careful thought, it is just not right for me to do so as in the working work everyone has a hidden agenda and I really can't dismiss every single person I meet like this. Moreover, they are still people and did nothing wrong for trying to gain a little something out of others.

Rejecting people making them uncomfortable and showing your displeasure is easy, anyone can do that. The hard part is to reject them techically and even better to convince others of your own view.
I wonder how I can go about doing this.....
Guess its about time to learn how to reject people while making everyone (truely) comfortable. Perhaps I should go more free facials to start learning this... Its about time to upgrade myself this area...

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Catching the falling leaves ...[7:40 PM]

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