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Thursday, April 30, 2009
Angry because..... ...
I always believe that no matter what is our true nature, it is the situation and surrounds that is shaping us, forcing us to adapt and behave how we are behaving now.

In a more professional terms, it is called the eco- social environment.

People living in singapore are staying in close proximity and are closely knit with one another, hence they have to adapt to have others into consideration as they might disturb or affect those around them.

For me, i always felt that my behavior has alot to do with my middle child status of being sandwiched between two silbings, which lead to how i interpret and do things.

Certainly, everyone has their own way of doing things. My sister, being the eldest, wants to be in control and has always been too quick to reach to a conclusion without considering the other possible factors. As a result, she is always quick and swift in her every move and decision which is very essential for many situations. Nonetheless, this has always been annoying and is the source of majority of our disputes that we every had.

My brother has always been too clever and mature for his own good. When people normally ask why, he would ask 'why not'. His defiant acts, though harmless, never fails to make me uncomfortable and eventually lead to conflicts.

Engaged in numerous conflicts in my early part of life, it certainly too me awhile to realise this principle: We can be displeased or unsatisfied or uncomfortable with anything, but once we became angry or lose our temper good things will not happen.

I was always the first to lose my temper in every arguement. When we became angry, we will be blinded with the rage and just wanted to win thus became irrational and illogical in our arguement. In the mist of wanting to feel better, we will rise our voice or even resort to violents if we cant win verbally.
Of cos, from an outsider point of view, the one who first resort to violence is in the wrong.

Hence, it seems to be the case that everytime i was angry bad things will happen simply cos I am making the situation worst or present myself in a bad light (although i might be right in the first place) or doing extremes actions when I am not thinking proper making me regret and guilty in the end.

All in all, if i get angry, i will lose.

And if the things and situation is important to me, the more i shouldnt get angry and lose my temper for i know i will definitly regret it in the future.

That is why i was always puzzled,
i have always been using my own perceptive in viewing things and has always asked myself these questions when someone is angry with me:
1)If i am important to you, why are you getting angry, filling yourself with unhappy thoughts, saying out hurtful words and doing things that will not help the situation?
2)If you really value the relationship so much, why are you getting angry easily and doing things that will strain it? Isn't the importance of it has enough reasons for you not to be angry?

BUT
everyone is developed differently, no matter how similar it seems.
For some people, its because they are so concerned, they interpreted the situation differently from the customary. And when situation is out of their expectation, they wanted to show their displeasure and their way to express their displeasure is to lose their temper to get others attention.

I suppose that is why humans are so interesting, just as i was happy that i finally figure myself out, i realise that i just can't reapply how i understand abt myself onto others.... ....


Catching the falling leaves ...[11:56 PM]
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Friday, April 24, 2009
What's HAM?
Today is my first paper that i took with my coursemates!

Studying with others adds on to the socially orientated motivations but increases the interdependent concerns which leads to stress as well.

The anxiousness of taking the paper seems to be affecting everyone very much.
IT just seems no matter how much we study, we are still insecure that we can handle this paper.

True,false questions were quite tricky.
Second last question was a stunner.
I almost lost my nerve upon seeing the questions for i'm not sure how to start, of cos i tried to salvage as many marks as i could for that part. Lets hope i can have some sympathy marks for that part.
Joel seems to be disgruntled for mis reading some important clue to the questions, while wj seems to figure out something abt this question.
Nonetheless, quite a lot of questions that we discussed during the past two days came up. It certainly does help us to pull through this paper, hopefully. Lets hope that everyone else did poorly for this paper hence it will be easy for us to get good grades! yup!


Catching the falling leaves ...[8:49 PM]
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Wednesday, April 22, 2009
Back to the music....
I suddenly remember how i used to be in my tip top condition while doing my exam. Its a condition that every questions are what i expected. Even if i encounter questions i have never encounter before, i was able to think quickly and use the clues to make sense out of it and answer according. Then i would be very proud of myself as i knew no one else will be able to figure out the question other then me.

And eveytime i did such paper, i would imagine myself performing in a eudaimonia state. Its like a 2 hrs dance routine, every step and movement of the dance is practiced and prepared for. And after each movement, you know you are doing it well and right and just need to follow the flow till the very end.

I like this type of feeling...

But as things get harder and complex, it seems hard to have a exams that contains things that u have practiced or know abt. Hence, the only time that i could have this type of feeling was when i was back to the music.
When every note and movement i played was accounted and trained for.
Upon every move made, we are anticipating the next few in fear that we might make the wrong move.
And as each note is made, we are relief, thinking back that we had performed it correctly..
All was tense until then entire piece was over...

I missed this feeling...


Catching the falling leaves ...[11:51 PM]
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Heating up?
Joel did the nicest thing to help us collect our heat and mass quiz paper!

Guess what?

Joel did the worst thing by losing our heat and mass quiz paper! urgh!

haha!
My second paper will be the aisan psych which i dont really know how to go about studying. I basically know abt all the concepts, its just the writing part..(or so i think?)
Gee.. i dont know.
I just hope i can get the flow that i had yesterday. Dont care if i write rubbish, just make sure i can write something. I vaguely remember there was a time i had mindblock and couldnt even start. And once i couldnt start, i got anxious and wasnt able to think. So scary.
My worst fear that is that i lost my momentum and cant start writing anything.

Well, the best way to ensure that there is momentum in writing is to write more isnt it?

Motivation for today's study session is way low.
All of us dont feel like lookng into it.
I suppose this is the nature of this module.
If we are studying alone, we might feel stress out as we are not sure if others are feeling this way. Thats when study in a group comes in.
It minimise the negative impact of stress that has on us.
But to put it in another perspective, study in group does create the stress when people compare.
Some may argue it is a socially orientated motivation.

That brings us to another question; Which comes first?

Lets hope im in the mood to put in everything i got for heat and mass tml. I am supposedly be in the best postition to do well for this paper!

Oh my.. a storm is coming...


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Tuesday, April 21, 2009
momentum running!
Lets keep my exam/ writing momentum running, shall i?

Taking psych paper is always so fun especially when we are in mood of writing and when the questions they asked are so interesting.

It i were to SU this module, i will certainly write strange and funny stuff, but this is not SU. Oh well.

Lets hope I can write as much for my asian psych too!

Rest a little more while before starting my heat and mass!
then i shall say bye bye to social psycho which i will be replacing.. haha


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Monday, April 20, 2009
Cognitive dissonance
Everyone prefer to have a harmony and consistent view of the world. Hence if they perform and action that is discrepant from their own customy views, it will create a feeling of discomfort and tension. Upon having this tension, they will have a drive to reudce this discomfort by reducing the inconsistency.

This human behaviour is known as cognitive dissonance.

Everyone knows why we are in the school studying. To be educated and learn stuff. Eventhough the ultimate goal might be different, for some to get into a good job and earn big money, or to be a knowledgable person. It is all to learn.

Nonetheless, some people was unable to act consistently and do not study consistently. Hence, there is a cognitive dissonance and they would want to reduce this feeling of discomfort.

People can reduce this tension in 3 ways
First is to change their behaviour so for this case they can choose to study hard and do well
Second. they can choose to change their cognition by saying that coming to school is not study or they will say that they do not have the interest to study or even doesn't want to study
Thirdly, they can choose add new cognition along the way by saying coming to school is not just abt study but to make friends and to join extra activities as well.

I was internally laughing when i heard someone saying that the professor should not expect everyone to learn consistently during the semeseter, they are not looking into those people who are working and are highly involve in external activitiesm its wrong for them to do so.
Isn't that amusing to see how people reason to justify their actions?

Oh, did i mention this dissonance reduction is unconscious?
Well, i guess i myself find alot of excuse on my part.
But its human nature to evaluate others.

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Catching the falling leaves ...[12:15 PM]
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Sunday, April 19, 2009
exams starting tml!
Exams starting tml! haha
21st april.

The same day as edwin having his last paper! How lovely can that be?

this is my first time having such exams like that due to my screw up time table. Social psych on the 21st, asian on the 23th, HAM on the 24th and catalyst on the 29th.

Most of the time people from my school tend to have exams evenly spread apart. Thats the only thing they can be nice to us, and the only thing they can be assist. To allow us to have more time to study each paper. (Although some people view it negatively that the paper is never ending).

So with an odd exam time table, there is now an odd battle plan.... ...
Lets hope it works well for me.. haha


Catching the falling leaves ...[11:55 PM]
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Saturday, April 18, 2009
Let Fats be Fad!
Becareful what you wish for.
Never knew fats can appear when u least expect it!

I always believe that so long as we excerise regularly, its almost impossible to get fat.
Guess what, i wasn't able to excerise regularly.

The good endurance for fat i had accumulate over the years has been exhausted upon my trip at waterloo. Hence, the fats are starting to catch up it seems.

haha! but 3 meals a day is a must! how can you do anything if you are distracted with an empty stomach?
I am going to excerise every single day upon the end of exams! wake up 630am to run and have my mao tiao sheng cai back! haha... yup! I still want to fulfill my wish to have my 2.4 to be sub 9...


Catching the falling leaves ...[11:33 PM]
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Friday, April 17, 2009
overjustification effect!
Notice that i have been posting quite a few post as of late when i am supposed to be studying for my exams.

Well, i really need to be in a mood of writing long essays, to prepare myself for the essay paper on the 21st and 23rd. Proper reading has been done, apart from memorising paragraphs and phrases to enhance my speed and content of my essay, the most important thing now is to be in the mood of writing.
From past experience, i write best when i am not under exam stress , ie those essay papers that i SUed. It is only then, my thoughts can flow smoothly.

But such move can be harmful due to Overjustification effect.
Overjustification effects is the tendency for people to view their behaviour is due to compelling extrincit reasons and underestimate the extent it is due to intrincit reason. I originally have the interest to write blogs, but due to exams i am not writing as much. Nonetheless, the interest is still there. Now i am writing as i wanted to be in a mood of writing for the exams, which is an extrincit motivation. In a long run, the intrincit reasons will be replaced

Because of this, if in the future there isn't any essay exams, i will have no reason to write any post!

So lets dont forget our intrincit reasons!


Catching the falling leaves ...[11:48 PM]
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Is there someone crying for help?
I wasn't joking when i told weijie that i felt responsible for jb's current state.

He immediately attribute that i was studying too much psych modules.

Seriously, I knew something was not right with him upon coming back Singapore. But i'm not the type who will go asking people why. I dont like asking questions remember?
STill, there are couple of times i can sense jb unconsciously seeking help from me throughout this semester. Yet, i didn't really took into consideration as i am busy with my stuff.

Its until wj started to say negative things abt him that i finally took notice.
We are all friends, it certainly means a lot of one spoke ill of another.

I didn't realise so much stuff had happened during my absence. And now i am beginning to worry about him this semester. In alot of ways we are similar i must say, and that made me even worry. For me i got my yanyan, who i will spontenously share my problems and even if i dont feel like doing so, she will try all sorts of ways for me to do so.

He only has me.


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Thursday, April 16, 2009
exam is here?
Perhaps its due to the nature of the courses i am taking this semester, it doesn't feel like my exam period that i used to have in ntu. Or is it who i'm studying with? hmm.. I remembered i could study until i fell sick and get bad dreams during my yr one.



I don't really feel the stress of examination (yet), even though i know i am doing what i should in the preparation. Then again, my first paper is 5 days from now, i guess i am suppose to be feeling a little edgy and start feeling the stress. A bit of stress can help to optimise learning, then i wouldnt be easily distracted by other stuff.



REviewing my battle plan, i guess the only way to do well for my psych modules is to memories the essays. Thats the only thing i can do for the preparation, i already understand the concepts while on the lectures. See thats the diff between engineering modules, we dont understand even till the very end of the exam day.


Catching the falling leaves ...[11:43 PM]
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eat and eat
I suddenly realised eating infront of the computer is such an ugly sight.
(correction: eating infront of the computer and surf the net is such an ugly sight)


Why can't people eat in the normal way?
In the dining area, sitting with friends or maybe while enjoying the television?

Are they so busy that they need to surf the net and eat at the same time?
Its really very ungraceful when the left hand is holding on to the burger while the right hand is holding on to the mouse and ur eyes are fixed on the screen not knowing that the sauces are spilling all over the place. Yukes....

Never mind that they make the entire air con room smell with food , never mind that they distract others with their food. But the sight of them eating like pigs can be so awful... ...


Catching the falling leaves ...[9:54 PM]
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Saturday, April 04, 2009
Study day!
Really tempted to post the photos taken today for my study session ! but a bit lazy and tired to do so after vertical marathon training with yan. Anyway, my cable is no where to be found... oh well..

Studying with others can be so much fun... initially.
I used to enjoy study with weijie during my yr 1, but after major exams i just can't stand looking at him. Reminds me of exams. ITS the learnt association thingy, can't remember the exact name for it. Then i tired to avoid meeting up with him as much as i can during the holidays.

It would be disasterous if i associate yan with exams.. haha! how can someone so cute be associated with something so disgustingly disgusting. Its just like associating me with jock biao! haha..


Catching the falling leaves ...[11:58 PM]
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Friday, April 03, 2009
Last presentation!
Oh my! my last presentation for this semester!
Abit mess up during the middle for i lost my trail of thoughts, but eventually turn out fine.
ITs amazing how one can perform when there is little stress and anxiety. Oh did i mention that the presentation is not graded?

I guess this is what they mean that asian people care too much about grades. Its a by product of being in an interdependent culture in which one will take others into consideration in the things we do. This in turn will bring about people being anxious about doing well, abit of stress can lead one to perform but too much of it will be a mayham.

STUDY HAM for tml! here i come!


Catching the falling leaves ...[11:55 PM]
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Wednesday, April 01, 2009
A year ago...
It was a year ago that I last took my ntu exams hence it is not surprising that I got this feeling of a year ago.
I remember a year ago, I was thinking of my overseas exchange and was thinking that this will be my last month i will be in hall staying with kelvin ang and my neighbours from blk 33. And things turned out that I am here right now, in blk 33 had a chat with my neighbours. This time, they are the ones who are leaving for they are graduating.

I remember a year ago, in a span of a week. We celebrated ky and cw's birthdays, making a mass out of the foutain at LT2. This year, everyone are so busy and doesnt have the mood for any of this.

Anyway, My yr 2 sem 2 Battle plan is out!!
From the modules, it is the slackest i ever have and will ever have. (not counting the one i had in waterloo) But i just can't help it but to have the feeling of stress out.
Simply cause its a learnt behaviour i guess. I learnt that i will feel this way every time i have exams, or is it because all my friends in my course are pushing their limits... ...?


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