Thursday, November 11, 2010

Right of way....
Working with others can be fun. Knowing that everyone is doing their part to make things happen really gives us a sense of statisfaction as we know that we are achiving something. The problem comes when there are things that are not favorable to you or when others did something bad which will effect the entire situation.

When involve with such situation, there are normally 3 things that we can do 1) change the situation 2) change self and 3) relinguish

I must say even knowing this, I am not really good at handling this kind of situation to put things nicely. This is especially so in the particular situation when others did something wrong. When it comes to small trival matters, we will just say 'its alright' and things will be over. However, when things starts to get more serious we can no longer say such things as it involves responsibilities.
Certainly, when others did something wrong, we will expect them to be doing something to make up for their mistake. This is when skills comes in to make such request without making things ugly.

What normal people will do in this kind of situation is to become angry, show your unhappiness or/and make a scene or/and to make a request for compensation out loud. For me, it is just not my style to make a fuss. Or should i say, I try doing that before but I just couldn't do it and ended up losing out in important situation.

After thinkin through, what should be done is that
1) To point out that what they did is wrong and smile
2) Tell them about own plight that result from their actions and smile and continue nagging about it
3) And tell them what they should do at least and smile
4) Unsuccessful Repeat steps 1-3 again
5) Successful, closual

The idea is same when things are not in our favour.
Simple as that!
Its must better than showing our temper, hope that they will do something and get nothing done. (Also there are people who just stop at step 2... i wonder who.. haha)

This was posted simply because of the dream I had last night, when I was called down for a job interview and I waited the whole day only to realise that they have forgotten to slot me in for the interview. At that moment I was unhappy and was expecting them to do something so compensate (like giving me that job as a form of apology). So to show my disatisfaction, I stayed at the office till after office hour. From a hindsight, all these sounds easy but it is actually not when we are filled with rage when things go wrong. Come to think of it, there are people who can do all these very naturally to the extend that we are persuaded towards them without relising.. Perhaps they are just quick thinking when it come to this kind of things. But for me, I think too much when problems arises so much so by the time I finish thinking, it will be too late. That is why we need simple steps to do the proper things..

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